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My name? It would be Skyler!
20 years young, and I still act like a 5 year old on a regular basis!
I'm genderfluid/non-binary, and I'm still not sure what pronouns I prefer. I try my best though!
I like just about everything, and I love making new friends.
So message me! Follow me! Hell, if you need someone to listen to you? I'll do that too.
For months, every morning when my daughter was in preschool, I watched her construct an elaborate castle out of blocks, colorful plastic discs, bits of rope, ribbons and feathers, only to have the same little boy gleefully destroy it within seconds of its completion.
No matter how many times he did it, his parents never swooped in BEFORE the morning’s live 3-D reenactment of “Invasion of AstroMonster.” This is what they’d say repeatedly:
“You know! Boys will be boys!”
“He’s just going through a phase!”
“He’s such a boy! He LOVES destroying things!”
“Oh my god! Girls and boys are SO different!”
“He. Just. Can’t. Help himself!”
I tried to teach my daughter how to stop this from happening. She asked him politely not to do it. We talked about some things she might do. She moved where she built. She stood in his way. She built a stronger foundation to the castle, so that, if he did get to it, she wouldn’t have to rebuild the whole thing. In the meantime, I imagine his parents thinking, “What red-blooded boy wouldn’t knock it down?”
She built a beautiful, glittery castle in a public space.
It was so tempting.
He just couldn’t control himself and, being a boy, had violent inclinations.
She had to keep her building safe.
Her consent didn’t matter. Besides, it’s not like she made a big fuss when he knocked it down. It wasn’t a “legitimate” knocking over if she didn’t throw a tantrum.
His desire — for power, destruction, control, whatever- - was understandable.
Maybe she “shouldn’t have gone to preschool” at all. OR, better if she just kept her building activities to home.
I know it’s a lurid metaphor, but I taught my daughter the preschool block precursor of don’t “get raped” and this child, Boy #1, did not learn the preschool equivalent of “don’t rape.”
Not once did his parents talk to him about invading another person’s space and claiming for his own purposes something that was not his to claim. Respect for her and her work and words was not something he was learning. How much of the boy’s behavior in coming years would be excused in these ways, be calibrated to meet these expectations and enforce the “rules” his parents kept repeating?
There was another boy who, similarly, decided to knock down her castle one day. When he did it his mother took him in hand, explained to him that it was not his to destroy, asked him how he thought my daughter felt after working so hard on her building and walked over with him so he could apologize. That probably wasn’t much fun for him, but he did not do it again.
There was a third child. He was really smart. He asked if he could knock her building down. She, beneficent ruler of all pre-circle-time castle construction, said yes… but only after she was done building it and said it was OK. They worked out a plan together and eventually he started building things with her and they would both knock the thing down with unadulterated joy. You can’t make this stuff up.
Take each of these three boys and consider what he might do when he’s older, say, at college, drunk at a party, mad at an ex-girlfriend who rebuffs him and uses words that she expects will be meaningful and respecte, “No, I don’t want to. Stop. Leave.”
The “overarching attitudinal characteristic” of abusive men is entitlement
(Source: lastlifeinuniverse)
Number 1 rule of tumblr: you must reblog when ever our creator comes up on your dash.
If you do not reblog this you do not belong here
(Source: luutopia)
are we gunna have sex or are you going to continue to like my posts
valid question
My childhood was fabulous.
this is why our generation is so liberal
So my mom and I have been working the same waitress job for 5-6 years now. She had been waitressing years before, but this is recently. Anyway, about… 15 minutes ago this guy she waited on left and told her to take care. Just that. Prior to this she had talked to him about Italy. Her people are from Florence, this and that, and she said she’s never been. She’s got 8 years of art education and she’s working a waitress job. It’s pretty… Sad and disappointing, I guess. Her and my father divorced 6 years ago and she hasn’t had a real job ever. Just been stuck in a small town she’s not from.
This man who we have never seen before tipped her 1000 dollars for a trip to Italy. Walked out, not another word.
…you know. Just when I start to lose faith in humanity….Hm.
HUGE GIVEAWAY! HUGE GIVEAWAY! HUGE GIVEAWAY!
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Hello so as you can see I am doing another giveaway but with different items. I want to help someone that needs these items more than I do. I have barely used these items above and know other people can get good use out of it! I have done other giveaways in the past and they were really successful so i’m really excited to be doing this one! (:
GIVEAWAY ENDS MAY 24TH, 2013
Rules:
Must be following snuggul (previously zaoe)
NO LIKES(you will be disqualified)Reblog as much as you’d like (I am keeping track of how many times you reblog the post)
I am shipping internationally and for free so anyone can participate (:
I am using a random generator to pick the winner!
if you have any questions ask me here
Items:
Canon Camera- $1,700
Psp- $100
Chi Straightener- $100
Blow Dryer- $40
Chi Wand- $110
Victoria Secrets bag- $60
Vera Bradley make up bag (full of make-up)- $40-50
Victoria Secrets make-up kit- $40
Clinique make up bag full of make up- $40-50
Jewelry (earrings & braclets)- $30
Perfume (VS & Rue 21)- $45
Sunglasses- $10
Books (Hunger Games, Maximum Ride series, Summer boys series, Twilight, Paper town)- $50-60
Cheetah scarf- $10
Gold belt- $10
Young & Wreckless shirt (M)- $15
Tribal crop-top (M)- $20
Reindeer sweater (L)- $40
Silk floral shirt (M)- $40
Polka d shirt (M)- $45
Strapless floral shirt (M)- $45
Pink short sleeve (L)- $40
One shoulder white shirt (S)- $45
One shoulder floral shirt (S)- $45
“Pink” Victoria Secrets (S)- $55
Plaid Peacoat (M)- $60
Black strapless dress (6)- $80
Gold slip-ons (size- 9)- $15
Black studded heels (size- 8)- $75
Flipflops (both size 9)- $25
Total: $3,155
Getting on your period right before a big event
and you’re like
So accurate it hurts
I’ve almost cried a couple of times in the past..
im sorry i think you meant every convention i have ever attended
my PROM
im sorry i think you meant every convention i have ever attended
(Source: toots-toots)
- love yourself like kanye loves himself
- believe in yourself like kanye believes in himself
- know you’re the shit like kanye knows he’s the shit
This is actually really great because Kanye West has fought depression and suicide this sort of confidence worked for him and wow Kanye West. Anyone who is depressed, believe you are the Kanye Best.
loving a character so much you’re slowly becoming them
loving a character so much and having people nickname you after them
loving a character so much and having people say they think of you whenever they hear about the character or things relating to them
(Source: jaclcfrost)
Grrrrrrrth
Well everyone (all 3 of my followers). I told facebook to go fuck itself. So im going to try to use tumblr more often. I have only one question… HOW DAFUQ DO I TUMBLR?
Any questions, let me know c:
