Pleased to meet you :3
My name? It would be Skyler!
20 years young, and I still act like a 5 year old on a regular basis!
I'm genderfluid/non-binary, and I'm still not sure what pronouns I prefer. I try my best though!
I like just about everything, and I love making new friends.
So message me! Follow me! Hell, if you need someone to listen to you? I'll do that too.
Hi. I don't wanna get too personal, but have you ever had an issue balancing motherhood and bdsm? Or is your child old enough that it isn't such a huge issue? I ask because I'm a sahm of a young child, and I'd really like to seek a D/s relationship.
I appreciate this question and have made quite a few posts on it. I don’t feel it’s too personal at all. Please don’t ever feel like you can’t reach out off anon. I would talk to you privately about this.
Anyway…there is ABSOLUTELY no reason to think that you cannot have a D/s relationship with a child in the home. Any Dom who is worth anything will understand your responsibilities as a mother and will not put you in a position where you aren’t able to tend to them!
Personally, I am a firm believer that children have no business knowing the intimate details of adult relationships. Vanilla or otherwise. So should you be in a D/s relationship that simply means that your relationship would appear to be like any other. There is no reason why you should be disciplined in front of children…and certainly no reason why there should be any sexual activity in front of young eyes. (Just as there wouldn’t be in a vanilla relationship.)
Domestic tasks, reading, research, etc can all be done with kids around. Even certain underwear can be worn without anyone outside knowing. (for instance, if your Dom wanted to punish you with clamps on your nipples while in the house, no one would see them.) Should you break any rules, your Dom can punish you once the kids are in bed. The same way any vanilla couple has sex when kids are asleep. If he wanted you to take some sexy pics on your phone for him…that can always be done in the bathroom while the door is closed. Again…don’t make this more complicated that it is. Vanilla couples are private with children and D/s couples ARE the same. Just because we might have some additional kinky things going, does not mean that we don’t understand the way family dynamics work.
Most of my closest D/s friends have kids in the house. We all have managed to keep that part of our lives private and for our children we appear like any other couple. If a Dom doesn’t understand your place as a mother then I promise you that he is NOT the one. I will not lie and say that D/s responsibilities do take some juggling because it’s about time management like anything else, but it certainly is possible. Many D/s couples have children and make it work.
I’ve posted on this before, but want to share this particular post because it lays it out so clearly. I don’t want to incite by saying this, but I think the people who can’t wrap their minds around living a D/s lifestyle with kids in the home are simply in it for the sex play, whether intentionally or due to lack of knowledge and/or experience.
D/s is a lifestyle. You live your life.
This is comforting to see right now c: Master and I just had our daughter born… and almost the entire pregnancy any sexual contact made me feel like I wanted to vomit!
Now it’s almost insatiable. Well, on my end. I want to do more than I am allowed to right now. But with baby it’s awkward. Still going to continue the life style. And it’s good to see that others know it’s okay as well c:
KA-BLAM!!! Love this :)
Above is the “Know Anon” code that allows you to expose any hateful anons you wish at your own whim. If you know anyone who’s struggling with anonymous hate, reblog this for them.
- How to install
Simply copy the above code and paste it right after the <head> portion of the HTML coding on your blog. This is with the jQuery script included, so everything should be covered. Once you’ve done this, update and save, then exit your customize page.
Re-enter your customize page, and under “appearance” should be a button called “Enable Know Anon”, which may be on or off automatically, depending. Flip the switch to enable or disable it, then save.
- How to use
When you get anonymous hate or anon messages you find offensive, simply exit your Inbox, enter your Customize page, flip the switch to “on”, then save and exist. Re-enter your inbox, and any and all anonymous messages will be exposed with a URL, if they have one. Note that this includes everything, not just the hate. Another thing to note is that, once you expose anons in the inbox, you can’t un-expose them. Flipping the switch back to “off” does nothing.
Answer a message people thought was on anon, and gee, they’ll get a nasty little surprise, hmm? It’s better than a fake anonymous button because while you still can’t control who it exposes, you can control when to do so.
Remember though, that this isn’t the only way to stop anonymous hate. As always, there’s simply the “turn anonymous asks off” button. And thanks to the update from a few months ago, anons CAN be blocked.
That little hand right there? That’s the ignore button. It’s present on all asks sent, whether anon or otherwise. When you block an anon, you have the option to report them for spam or harassment, and it will permanently block them. It also blocks the IP address and computer, so that person can’t take advantage of extra accounts to continue sending you hate. It effectively wipes that person right out of your Tumblr life. They cannot contact your blog again, ever.
For the website that gives you the Know Anon code, with or without jQuery script, in case that causes trouble (most themes come with it pre-installed, but not all), go here.
[ Goodness, wow thank you very much for letting me know this existed! That was very considerate of you! ]
EVERYONE WHO HAS BEEN GETTING LITTLE NO-LIFE SHITHEADS BOTHERING THEM.
Here you go. <3
hey! how's the baby? have you had it yet? do you plan on keeping it?
We’ve known forever that we were keeping her. There was a week where we weren’t sure what was going on when we first found out but she is definitely wanted here. And she’s now 15 days old!
It’s hilarious that non-Americans on Tumblr are all like “OMG DENNY’S TUMBLR MAKES ME WISH I LIVED IN AMERICA SO I COULD EAT THERE,” while us Americans will literally only eat at Dennys if it’s 3 in the morning and we’ve lost control of our life.
You don’t go to Denny’s. You end up at Denny’s.
"You don’t go to Denny’s. You end up at Denny’s." is one of the most accurate things I’ve ever read.
Ready to have a panic attack.
I’m terrified. My daughter is 5 days old now. And I am absolutely terrified that if I fall asleep I won’t hear her cry. Or something will happen and I won’t know until I wake up and something is wrong. Horribly wrong.
She already doesn’t want to sleep in her bassinet. I’m not helping by refusing to put her in out of my own panic.
I know this. But god. I’m trying to put her in her bed and I can’t get up. I cant. The thought of it… and after my boyfriend’s brother died of SIDs… The thought of that happening to her is just terrifying.
I can’t put her in her pack n play and I can’t sleep and I can’t keep holding her like this. But… I can’t get myself off the bed.
I wonder why they clicked onto my page specifically.
I wonder what makes them click the ”Follow” button.
I wonder who actually keeps up with my Tumblr.
I wonder who actually enjoys my Tumblr.
I wonder if I’m anyone’s Tumblr crush.
You can come confess if you want……
Mmmm… I can almost taste that equality….
You know. Almost .
OH MY JESUS CHRIST ALRMIGHT Y IN THE SKY IT IS TO SHOW HOW IT IS UNFAIR THAT WOMEN GET PAID AOBUT 75 CENTS FOR EVERY DOLLAR A MAN EARNS THATS WHY JFUCKING FUCK
OKAY THATS ACTUALLY KINDA FUNNY
tw: abuse, rape, domestic violence
A few weeks ago my mom stapled pages of a story in one of her women’s magazines together and handed it to me. She gave it to me pretty much with the tag lines “for your feminist blog” and “something new to consider.” Indeed it was; she knows me well.
The story is titled “I was forced to be pregnant.” With a title like that, reading it was actually not on the top of my to read list. I thought it was about women not exercising their right to choice. I was very, very wrong on that one.
Have you ever heard of Reproductive coercion? It is a term that was quite recently coined by the advocates against domestic violence to describe a certain type of abuse some women face. It occurs when a man pressures their partner to have kids and/or impregnates them against their will. Reproductive coercion comes in three different types:
1. Emotional pressure that turns into verbal and physical abuse.
2. Sabotaging birth control
3. Marital rape
Over 75% of women 19-49 who reported once experiencing domestic violence also endured some type of reproductive control by men. It’s all about control and domination over a woman’s body.
The first story in the magazine is about a woman who got married around 36 years of age. After a few months of dating her boyfriend talked excitedly about having children. After he proposed he began calling her “The Babymaker.” She then confided with him that one of her fallopian tubes was blocked. He in return insisted she see a fertility doctor. She recounts, “I had finally met a great guy who was eager to start a family with me. What woman wouldn’t fall for that?” Soon after her honeymoon he persisted on in an obsessive manner, but his efforts had to be temporarily halted as she had to get emergency back surgery. Alas, 6 months into recovery he was back to pressuring her again. She was in much pain at the time due to her back, but she agreed to In Vitro Fertilization. She then became pregnant, but soon miscarried. In response, her husband grabbed her by the neck, choking her. He apologized, blaming his outburst on his grief and had her sign up for another round of IVF. And then a third round. She tried to put him off with the excuse that she needed to weigh more before she could take treatments, her husband forced her to get on the scale often and filled the fridge with fattening foods. “It hurt that all I was good for was getting pregnant.” She recounts. At the end, he screamed at her, threatening to replace her with a maid if she couldn’t get pregnant and she told him she no longer wanted to have his child. He destroyed bedroom furniture, pushed her down the stairs and threatened her with a gun. She fled to a domestic violence shelter.
The second story was about a woman who faced marital rape. This woman was 40, had a then boyfriend and two children from a previous marriage. After telling her boyfriend she did not want any more children, her boyfriend refused to wear a condom and began to rape her. She then became pregnant with her third child. Birth control was never an option for her because she couldn’t hide pills anywhere for he went through all of her belongings. Three months after giving birth, he raped her again, impregnating her with twins. She lost the twins in a physical fight with him, but soon became pregnant again. During her recovery she begged her obstetrician to remove her ovaries and devise a lie to tell him; that she had cancer. After a decade of sexual abuse and violence she was able to get a job that kept her out of the house and often times traveling.
One in four callers to the National Domestic Abuse hotline said that their partners had tried to force them to become pregnant. Why? As one woman stated, “Its like he wants to own me from the inside out.” Having a baby is the perfect tie that binds. These type of abusers want to create a circumstance in which their partner is dependent on him.
WHAT’S THAT HAVE TO DO WITH PLANNED PARENTHOOD?
Many voters never consider how defunding these clinics could hurt victims of domestic violence who turn to them for counseling as well as pregnancy prevention. Abused women will turn to health care providers long before they will turn to domestic abuse hotlines and organizations. Many women in abusive relationships rely on life saving, affordable care programs such as Title X. It is critical that such places are open and operation when women and children need them so desperately.
holy fuck im crying.
I know I’ve told this story before, but my abusive ex refused to let me take birth control. I was on the pill until he found them in my purse.
I went to the Student Health Center—they were completely unhelpful, choosing to lecture me about the importance of safe sex (recommending condoms) instead of actually listening to my problem.
Then I went to Planned Parenthood. The Nurse Practitioner took one look at my fading bruises and stopped the exam. She called in the doctor. The doctor came in and simply asked me: “Are you ready to leave him?” When I denied that I was being abused, she didn’t argue with me. She just asked me what I needed. I said I need a birth control method that my boyfriend couldn’t detect. She recommended a few options and we decided on Depo.
When I told her that my boyfriend read my emails and listened to my phone messages and was known to follow me, she suggested to do the Depo injections at off hours when the clinic was normally closed. She made a note in my chart and instructed the front desk never to leave messages for me—instead, she programmed her personal cell phone number into my phone under the name “Nora”. She told me she would call me to schedule my appointments; she wouldn’t leave a message, but I should call her back when I was able to.
And that was it. No judgment. No lecture. She walked me to the door and told me to call her day or night if I needed anything. That she lived 5 blocks from campus and would come get me. That I wasn’t alone. That she just wanted me to be safe.
I never called her to come to my rescue. But I have no doubt that she would have come if I had called. She kept me on Depo for a year, giving me those monthly injections in secret, helping me prevent a desperately unwanted pregnancy.
I cannot thank Planned Parenthood enough for the work they do.
If you can read this, and still think there is no situation in which a woman should have access to safe abortions, basically you’re saying that you value women as little as the abusive assholes in these personal, true stories did. That you’d rather have a woman die at the hands of her abuser than terminate a pregnancy, and that you’d rather have numerous children born into a dangerous, damaging, terrifying home than allow a woman to have control over her own body and her own reproductive choices.
WHAT THE FUCK
she had period and the blood attracted the damned shark OMG THAT’S BEST AD EVER
That escalated quickly.
At first I was like: Oh. Okay, look… sexy ladies.
But then I was like: Oh. Oh my.
if you’re a female and this scenario doesn’t cross your mind at least once every summer, you must be either under the age of like 12 or older than 50
My roommate said “WHAT COUNTRY IS THAT COMMERCIAL FROM” and my other two roommates just said “Probably Australia” in unison
Yup, that looks like an ad we would put up..
It is from Movie 43 you dopes
“My name is Jasmine Edwards. I worked at IHOP in Evansville, Indiana. As you can see I got hurt at work. A lady hit me with a glass of milk and I had to get 8 stitches. My boss told me that I was fired and that my people didn’t know how to act. I didn’t do anything wrong, customers even said that I handled the situation very well. Anyway he fired me and another lady for standing up for me. This is not right and I ask that you Please Share-thanks”
This is so fucked up. Please share this photo.
"my people didn’t know how to act"
oh but we weren’t the ones assaulting ihop workers
Fuck Ihop and fuck racist assholes.
Sounds like this needs to go viral.